What does REEGÜR even stand for?
It means absolutely, positively, NOTHING! The truth of the matter is that while brainstorming platform names, it was another word misheard and when it was repeated back, the owner thought it sounded good and stuck with it!
What is REEGÜR?
REEGÜR is a fetish FFisting/butt-play community brand that strives to provide a safe and secure platform for those in the community to be able to not only seamlessly meet each other but take those connections with them throughout their everyday lives both locally and abroad. Currently, REEGÜR provides this through two mediums—a mobile application platform, which is to be available on iOS and Android; along with that, REEGÜR also hosts FFun public events for the community at large to participate in. These events are designed for community members to experience a sense of community that not only celebrates the physical body, but also the humanistic aspects of what comprises us wholistically as being human.
Does the REEGÜR app cost anything?
Currently, the REEGÜR app is free of charge. However, we do have quite a few more implementations/upgrades we plan on offering through the app and integrations with www.REEGUR.com. With that being said, the REEGÜR app on both iOS and Android platforms will be a reasonable monthly/quarterly/annual amount compared to other platforms available to the community while still offering a FREE version.
I’m new to or interested in the fisting/butt-play community. What is it that I should know?
The community of fisting/butt-play is one that has been around for many of decades, and in some historical references, even longer. While each individual in the community have their own preferences, there are a few general tips on etiquette as it relates to play interactions; check them out here.
What if I’m ONLY into playing with butt toys (dildos, plugs, etc.)?
While most REEGÜR members are into butt-play to the 10th degree, REEGÜR supports the butt-play community at large. So rather you’re into general cock/anus intercourse, fisting, large toy play, etc., you are welcome to delve into your current kinks/fetishes with members of the community while also having the opportunity to expand those capacities and maybe even meet a special someone in the process if you haven’t already!
Is REEGÜR just about sex-based encounters?
Not at all! While the premise and main commonality amongst REEGÜR members surrounds our interest in particular acts, it is highly encouraged for members to make connections with each other beyond a physical sense and engage in wholistic being encounters for play partners, FFriends, or even dating interests.
Is my information safe on REEGÜR?
What if I’m having technical difficulties with the REEGÜR app or website or notice something out of place on either? Who should I notify?
Rather you are having a technical concern with the REEGÜR app or website, you can get assistance through our support ticketing system. Answer the questions as best as you can and it will route your concern to the appropriate team member to help get your matter resolved faster. We may also be reached at info@REEGUR.com should you not be able to navigate our support system.
Can I be refunded for a REEGÜR event pass purchase if I can’t attend?
Simple—If you can’t make it, why pay for it. Send us an email to let us know that life happened, and you can no longer attend and REEGÜR will refund your Rose Bowl event pass purchase. Yes, you read that right. No moving it over to the next event or credits; right back into your payment method account! Click here to learn more about our Refund Policy.
Where can I purchase REEGÜR branded items (T-shirts, lube bottles, etc.)?
You can purchase all REEGÜR branded retail items on the REEGÜR website in the online retail store.
What supplies do I need to engage in butt-play?
These are some common simple things you may need:
- a.) Proper lubricant of choice.
- b.) Play space coverings to help make clean-up easy such as puppy pads or play sheets.
See more below under TIPS for Tops & Bottoms, section 8.
How do I make proper lubricant?
This is something that is very trial & error for everyone. More often than not, you will ask someone what ingredients they use to make their lube and it will be entirely and completely different from the last person you asked including the actual process of making it. However, we can say that a lot of powder and cream-based lubricants are staple ingredients in most community members’ ingredients. We encourage you to keep asking around or even taking a trip to your local novelty store and seeing what they have in stock. As you engage in play sessions, you may even encounter a lube mix you fancy and use that mix recipe.
What exactly does butt-play mean?
“Butt-play” typically refers to any type of sexual activity dealing with the anus regardless of how it’s being performed. For example, this can be performed with toys, penis, or through the act of fisting.
How can I practice butt-play and be safe?
Please see more below under all TIPS categories as there is helpful information in each section.
What does “fisting” mean?
“Fisting” typically refers to the sexual act of one inserting their hands/closed fists into one’s anus.
What does “douche/douching” or “clean(ing)-out” mean?
“Douche/douching” or “clean(ing)-out” typically refers to the process of one removing fecal matter (aka poop) from their anal tract. This is typically done with water and a specialized hose with tools. There are many various methodologies that can be used to achieve the goal of getting cleaned-out.
What does “open/closed hand(ed)/fist” mean?
“Open/closed handed(ed)/fist” typically refers to one’s hand being either full open and extended with all fingers close together or one’s hand being closed in a ball with the thumb either tucked under the other for fingers or the thumb just outside the index finger.
What does “doubles” mean?
“Doubles” typically refers to 2 hands inside of one’s anus. This could be both of one top’s hands or maybe even 1 hand each of 2 tops (bet THAT just gave you one heck of a visual, huh!). Also, doubles sometimes may refer to 2 penises inside of one’s anus (aka DP or Double Penetration).
What does “play/ play session” mean?
“Play/play session” typically refers to the act of sexual activity of any kind. A play session can be performed individually or with multiple partners.
What does “depth” or “depth play” mean?
“Depth” or “depth play” typically refers to areas deep beyond initial anal insertion. You can practice depth play with toys (usually dildos) but also during a fisting play session.
What does “width” or “width play” mean?
“Width” or “width play” typically refers to the stretching of one’s anus. This can be done using toys (dildos, wide butt plugs, etc.), as well as during a fisting play session using techniques such as “doubles” for example.
What does “punching” or “punch play” mean?
“Punching” or “punch play” typically refers to the act of fisting with one’s closed fists going in and out of one’s anus in a fast-repetitive manner.
What does “foot” or “foot play” mean?
“Foot” or “foot play” typically in the butt-play community refers to the act of one placing part or all of their clean, sanitized, and protected foot inside of one’s anus. See TIPS below for more information.
What does “bare hand(ed)” mean?
“Bare hand(ed)” typically refers to one not utilizing any protection glove barrier.
What does “gloves” mean?
“Gloves” typically refers to either latex or non-latex gloves used during sexual activity and/or clean-up after a play session.
Health & Safety FAQs/Tips
What is HIV (Human Immunodeficiency Virus) / AIDS (Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome)?
- Centers for Disease Control & Prevention (CDC): About HIV/AIDS — Learn More Here
What is PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis)
What is Hepatitis-C / Hep-C?
- World Health Organization: Hepatitis-C — Learn More Here
What are Sexually Transmitted Infections (STDs) / Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)?
Where can I get Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) / Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD) testing?
- You can go to your local health department for information on routine STI / STD testing
- You can talk to your primary care doctor about routine STI / STD testing
- Centers for Disease Control & Prevention Search Directory if you are located in the United States of America or a U.S.A. Territory — Learn More Here
- European Centre for Disease Prevention & Control Search Directory if you are located in Europe United (EU) — Learn More Here
- The STD Project: Resource to some STI / STD testing/information organizations — Learn More Here
TIPS FOR BOTH TOPS & BOTTOMS
1.) In the event of a serious emergency during playing, always remember to call 911 first for help. If a serious accident has happened during a play session/general meet-up or if you feel your safety is in jeopardy, this is the best possible outcome. Emergency dispatch can offer immediate life-saving instructions for yourself and your meeting partners. You and your life are valuable and REEGÜR wants to heavily emphasize this because we believe it too—don’t risk it, get help if seriously needed.
2.) Talk to your medical provider about your interest/current participation in the fisting/butt-play community. Your medical provider should feel like your best friend and support your interests while also providing you with the most ethical, sensitive, and informative health care information to keep you safe. Plus, if a concern arises, you and your provider have already spoken about this information. If your provider is not knowledgeable in this area, you may consider asking for a referral to a specialist such as a practitioner who works in the GBTQ (Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer) community, for example. Also, there are places around the globe that allow you to schedule an appointment or drop-in to speak to someone about safer sex practices as well as general information from reputable places on the internet such as the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, as example.
3.) While REEGÜR DOES NOT encourage nor endorse playing under the influence of legal or illegal substances, as they can potentially inhibit one’s ability to make safer play decisions, we do believe in a harm reduction approach. This approach was designed to meet individuals where they are in their current state of use and work on making sure that as many safety measures as possible are implemented while maintaining or working towards eliminating use all-together. We recommend first, you discuss any use of substance(s) with your health’s best friend—your primary care physician. Secondly, we recommend you to check-in with a substance use/abuse clinic and speak to a professional regularly about your use and to keep in check in the event that your use turns to a form of abuse or a coping mechanism for something else underlying that you may not be aware of. With regards to playing, the play session should always come first and foremost before any sexual enhancements. If you find that you are struggling with substance use, please seek out local help while keeping your primary care physician in the loop. You and your safety matters and we here at REEGÜR want to strongly emphasize that.
4.) Get routine testing done for all STIs (Sexually Transmitted Infections). To name a few but NOT all—Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Syphilis, HIV, and Hepatitis-C. We at REEGÜR recommend STI testing at least once every 3 months. If something is going on regarding a new STI infection, you want to know as soon as possible. This helps you to get proper treatment, as well as helping to keep the community safe by not further spreading bacteria and viruses. Be sure to notify all of your sexual partners as well to let them know. We scheduled the play session; we can schedule time to discuss health and STI exposures with our play partners. However, if you struggle with this topic of conversation with partners, most public health departments in your community will deliver the information for you.
5.) Always have a discussion with your play partners about their expectations and preferences before each session. This will help all involved parties to be well aware and sensitive to one another both before, during, and after the session.
6.) If you haven’t found out already, fisting and extreme butt play, can be immensely intense. With this intensity, it can unlock a connection with yourself and play partner(s) that is totally unique and independent to that of general penis intercourse. Taking the time to learn and continuously craft your techniques can only make the experiences that much more enjoyable for yourself and your partner(s).
7.) Outside of proper handwashing techniques, utilizing latex OR non-latex fitting gloves will always be the safest and most comfortable way to engage in a fisting play session. Gloves should feel tight like an extra layer of skin over your hands but not so tight that it poses risk to circulation. It’s important that if using non-traditional gloves, that they are all-around smooth with no abrasive stitching or edges. See more below under TIPS for Successful Topping, section 1.
8.) If you are into foot-intercourse play, utilizing a latex or non-latex condom completely over the foot would be the safest and most comfortable way to enjoy this type of play.
9.) As with all general penis-anal intercourse, the safest and most comfortable way to enjoy this type of play are by using a male or female condom (which is approved to be used in the anus), either latex or non-latex, and with proper approved water or silicone-based lubricants. Lubricants that are not approved for condoms such as “cooking lard” could breakdown the material of the condom, making it more prone to tearing and creating a potential sexual STI exposure.
10.) When engaging in toy play (dildo, butt plugs, etc), remember to properly wash and sterilize items before each use according to its manufacturer as bacteria may be present and grow on the item in-between uses. It is especially important to wach each toy between play partners utilizing them insertively unless otherwise agreed upon by each play partner.
11.) We are fortunate enough to live in a world today with PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis); a once/day regimen for non-HIV infected individuals, prescribed by your primary healthcare physician to help aide and assist in the prevention of new HIV infections. This prevention barrier goes one step further beyond traditional prevention methods and gives your body an internal fighting barrier to possible HIV-infection.
12.) Since lubricant is usually brought to a play session, if there are multiple players along with multiple lubricant containers/bottles, be mindful to keep up with your lube bottle so that it doesn’t get mistaken for someone else’s. Also, make sure to get permission to use someone else’s lube before using it. This helps to keep bacteria and viruses from spreading via sharing lube and lube containers.
13.) Make clean-up as easy as possible after playing. You can do this by putting down puppy pads (yes, actual puppy pads) which will absorb excess lubricant and bodily fluids quite well. Keep paper towels or towels handy nearby so that they may be used to take off excess lube and bodily fluids from your body. You could also invest into a fitted or non-fitted play sheet for either your play space or mattress.
14.) It is usually common courtesy to let a partner know if something comes up and you can no longer participate in a meet-up of any kind; rather it be for a play session or even a coffee. Life happens all the time, and the best thing we can do is communicate with our meeting partners to let them know that life has happened and attempt to reschedule when/if possible. Each time this is done, we show value for a person’s time and it keeps the community’s integrity intact as new comers join in.
15.) While it’s fun to record videos having FFun and showing off techniques, be mindful to make sure that the premise of the session remains focused on your play partner and keeping the integrity of that connection intact
16.) If playing in a group environment, it is common courtesy to observe others playing from a safe distance of about 3-4 feet away. Should you want to join an ongoing play session, it is best to wait for them to have an intermission or until you’re acknowledged to ask to join in. Please do not assume that it’s okay to just join a play session, even if you know one or some of the play partners. On this note, talking can be very distracting to others playing. Try to keep talking to an ear-shot whisper. If you are playing and are distracted by others talking around you, it’s okay to politely ask for them to lower their voices or tell them that the talking is distracting (this is a safety concern first and also a common community courtesy.
Rather in a group or one-on-one play session, remember to practice health and safety first! We depend on each other to keep one another as safe as possible from the potential spreading of bacterial and viral infections along with minimizing potential bodily injury risks. With that being said, you should remember to:
TIPS FOR SUCCESSFUL TOPPING
1.) always thoroughly wash your hands and arms before and after each play session. Typically, a mild dish soap works very well before and after. If it’s available to you after a play session with a powder-based lubricant, add some Epsom Salt which will clump up the lube to help you wash it off easier. You want to at least wash up to your elbows. Of course, if you discuss with your partner that depth play is something they fancy, you should be cautious and wash up to your shoulders. (If in a group play setting, you should wash properly and thoroughly between each play partner).
2.) always make sure to do proper trimming/manicuring of your nails so that you do not cause potential internal or external bodily harm to your play partners. Nail files come in various forms such as metal, crystal, etc. As long as you file your finger/toe nails down to the finger/toe tip of the nailbed and round off any rough edges, you should be good to go. A good way of double-checking this is to rub your finger/toe nail edges inside the palms of your hands or the inside of your other finger tips to make sure you feel no rough nail edges that need more filing/smooth rounding.
3.) always check your hands for open sores, scratches, etc. If you have any actively healing wounds, it is best to treat them properly while also utilizing gloves. You want to make any play partner aware as well and make the decision together on how to best to safely proceed forward with the session.
4.) always use PLENTY OF LUBRICANT! There can never be “too much” lube and usually no bottom play partner will start a fuss because you used too much. However, be safe and make sure to ask what’s in the lubricant mix if you didn’t make it yourself. Most bottoms usually bring their own lube to the session, so you likely will not ever have to worry about bringing your own; but provide the same courtesy if you mix lube. We encourage you to monitor how much you’re using to keep playing very smooth and maintaining a good lube viscosity. You’ll often need to add more lube during a play session, which is totally normal and expected.
5.) never bottom-shame (to make a bottom receptive partner feel un-at ease, intentionally). Regardless of what happens, try to always practice the best sensitivity you can around unexpected situations. For example, if a bottom prepared for play and still was not cleaned out during a play session, just let them know (without making any awkward facial expressions or demeaning negative comments) and if possible, allow them the opportunity to go and prepare more. If this happens in a public play environment, do the bottom a favor and just whisper in his ear that he may need to prepare more and try to clean him up as discreetly as possibly to try not to draw attention (your partner will totally love you for this). Another example is urine; during any type of play session, it is common that the prostate/bladder may be stimulated and cause urination. Acknowledge it has happened and if you need to, communicate with your play partners about rather to continue or if they would like to clean-up a bit first. Unexpected things happen during a play session and communication is key.
6.) listen to your bottom partners’ suggestions during play. It may be difficult sometimes but try to take critiques in your technique as positive criticism from your bottom to help make the play session much more enjoyable for your both. After all, if they want to continue, says more about their commitment to the session than the session ending, right?
7.) remember to pace yourself, it’s not about where you’re going but the quality of the experience along the way. Always go slow and feel your way around your bottoms’ anus first before advancing your technique. You can do this by inserting 1 finger and more additionally while monitoring your bottoms’ reactions to what you’re doing. Yeah, you may have possibly seen them take 2 fists before or maybe taken them from another play partner just before you. However, this will help to get you both acclimated to the new play session with one another before advancing forward. If your bottoms authorizes for you to advance forward in some other capacity, by all means, accommodate them if possible.
8.) always practice good care of your bottom(s) during, and after a play session. This can be done by:
- a.) every so often, asking how they are feeling.
- b.) offering them some water.
- c.) offering to change out a used puppy pad for a new clean one or clean up excess lube from the play area that the bottom is laying in.
- d.) using paper towels or towels to clean their butt off during a break or after a session, removing excess lubricant and bodily fluid (best to be done most safely with proper hand protection such as gloves). Let’s face it, bottoms typically go through much to prepare for you both to have an enjoyable session and these common courtesies can go a long way.
1.) always try your best to be cleaned out/douched before a play session (unless otherwise discussed with your play partners for other types of play). If you’re not in tune yet, get to know your body’s digestive cycle in general. Once you do this, it will become easier for you to schedule play sessions with yourself or with partners. While diet is very case-sensitive to each individual, practicing good everyday intake of dietary fiber/fiber supplements (after consulting with your primary care physician) can help you to continue having regular bowel movements (aka, a #2) consistently and keep waste being expelled from your body. The goal is to make play preparation not quite as stressful or time-consuming.
2.) always make sure to let your top partners know of what’s inside of your lubricant mix (since lubricants are pure preference for each bottom, you usually will find out what works best for you and always bring it to the play session). For example, some people may have an allergy to ingredients such “clove oil” OR if your top partner is using just (agreed upon) bare hands with no gloves, letting them know that you have mixed in an antiesthetic, would be helpful knowledge—desensitized penis and hands will be of no use to you! Making your top partners aware of what you use helps to keep everyone in safe and in the know.
3.) always make sure to be safe and check your partners’ finger/toe nails to ensure they are at a proper length for safe play. Doesn’t hurt to be cautious since the other possible outcomes can be potentially life-threatening or slow your butt-play career down to a long pause.
4.) always remember to be mindful of “bossy bottoming”, which usually yields at being demanding, negatively and/or strongly dictating to your top partner, and not using sensitivity when communicating to your top partner. It’s important to remember that you know what feels good to your body and your top sometimes may not. However, if you want the session to positively continue, it may help to sensitively and effectively communicate with your top partner to let them know something is uncomfortable and discuss different options with them to try out that are comfortable for you both. On the contrary, be open to suggestions from your top partners during play. For example, a top may suggest a position change or remind you to continue to breathe. Although it may be difficult sometimes, try not to take these negatively, but merely as the top’s attempt to continue to make sure you both have a fulfilling play session. If he meant anything negative by it, the session could’ve ended, right?
5.) never top-shame (to make an insertive top partner feel un-at ease, intentionally). Every moment is a teachable moment and you can use these opportunities to inform your top partner of your knowledge-base. For example, if your top finishes a session with you and forgets to clean your butt up or didn’t know of this etiquette, something like “would you mind helping to clean the excess lube off of my butt before I get up” could help you to 1, get the lube off of your butt and 2, provide you the teaching or reminding opportunity to keep the community etiquette intact. Another example is to not make your top partner feel bad about their technique if you went into the play session with an anus that was already sore from douching or previous play.
6.) remember to pace yourself, it’s not about where you’re going but the quality of the experience along the way. This becomes very important when attending a group play session or community event that may involve playing. You don’t want to wear yourself or your anus out, which could put you out of sexual commission. Your body tells you a lot about what it’s feeling, and we must listen to practice good safety measures.
7.) remember that sometimes playing is just simply not possible. You don’t want to get to a point where you had to douche so much that your anus is now sore OR your body is just simply having a hard time getting your anal tract cleared out. On this note, if you are utilizing dietary supplements such as Imodium, please make sure to check-in with your best health friend (your primary care physician) to make sure you are doing this properly according to your body.